blood banks northern california
Has anyone used an anoymous sperm donor bank?
My hubby has no sperm count and we are looking into the next way to have a blood child (only mine of course) and it looks like sperm donor bank is our next best option. Has anyone done this? Do you recommend it? Our insurance doesn’t cover it, does anyone know the cost? Or where in Northern California we can go to get this started? Please help, we really want a child of our own, thank you
My husband and I purchase sperm for insemination. We started out by seeing an Endocrinologist (fancy word for fertility specialist). I started taking Clomid, an oral medication ($55. per month). I also was given a perscription for Norvel, an injectable hormone ($90 for one month- it’s one injection before ovulation). My doctor had me doing basal body temperature charting and ovulation prediction tests. I had one ultrasound done every month and my insurance company did pay for it because the doctor was “looking for cysts” (as clomid CAN cause cysts). the ultrasound is done to check the size of the developing eggs in order to better predict ovulation (as i don’t ovulate predictably without clomid). My husband and I were able to sit down with our doctor and view a donor list. no photos… just written details. the cost of each “specimen” was $285 and we were required to buy 4 at a time (our doctor does TWO inseminations back to back each month). the actual cost of the procedure was $500 per month. I was saving the good news for last 
I did get pregnant on the first attempt at insemination We now have a 12 week old baby boy… and we also have two frozen specimens left that we are paying $125 per year to save IN CASE we want another baby. I do wish I had bought extra samples BECAUSE if we decide to have another baby and it doesn’t take as quickly as it did last time and our donor is no longer donating… then our babies wouldn’t be 100% biological…
I’m sure you’re also wondering if your husband could love the baby as much as if it were his own? I wondered and worried during my entire pregnancy about that. My husband has 3 adult children from his first marriage… biological children… BUT, again I am happy to say that everything has worked out wonderfully so far! He didn’t want his children to know that there was a donor BECAUSE he wants them to bond and feel as if the baby IS 1/2 theirs. AND, although I can’t say how my husband was with his bio children as infants, HE COULDN’T LOVE THIS BABY ANY MORE if it WERE his own child! He dotes on this child and is SO proud. I have to check his jacket pockets before taking things to the cleaner BECAUSE he is ALWAYS taking in new pics to show off at work. I AM SO LUCKY and wish the same for you!
Please get started by seeing a specialist and not just a gynocologist. I do SWEAR that the reason the process was so limited to one insemination was because my doctor was VERY experienced. He COULD have been doing inseminations on me every month for at 4 months BUT he waited until he thought ALL of the timing and conditions were right. I was upset every month when he would do the ultrasound and then say “let’s wait another month” (the uterine lining wouldn’t be right OR one time I had 6 eggs and NO ONE wants to risk that outcome!) so… find a doctor you really like that specializes in making dreams come true.
If you have any other questions please feel free to ask!
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